The “OPEN” road ( the one you should take more often)

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We have all heard that life is a journey, right? Some people fly everywhere because it’s faster. You don’t see or learn much along the way but you do get to your destination faster and that is how the world in general seems to work nowadays, isn’t it? Quick, quick, quick; no time for anything or anyone.

I think we need to have more road trips in our lives. A long road trip gives you many options. You can go in style or you can hitchhike your way along in bare feet.  You can be the driver who is in control of everything or you could be the driver who wants to be in control but really isn’t. You could be a passenger who wants to be in control, aka the backseat driver, or one who wants to sleep. It’s up to you. There are so many variations and combinations. The other thing a road trip does is give you time to think; to ponder on all sorts of things that you may not have the opportunity to do when you are presented with so many distractions when travelling by air.

People that I road trip with have a love/hate relationship with me being their passenger. They hate it because I hate maps and spend most of my time as a passenger looking out the window at the scenery and turning up the volume of whatever music I happen to put on so that I can have my little in- car concert experience, yet they love it for the exact same reasons. Plus there is usually fun food involved.

Now on my own personal life journey, I just see what unfolds before me or better put, inside me.  Don’t get me wrong, I MAY have a  life map just to let me know that I am in the correct hemisphere but many times I just crumple it up and put it away for another time when I may really need it. I am open to the idea of planning something out and then at the last minute something happens and I end up somewhere completely different; a new adventure. That has happened to me a few times.

Many years ago I travelled to Paris by myself and one night I decided that the following day would be spent in another part of the country. When I woke up the next morning I decided to go somewhere completely different. That is one good thing about taking a journey alone sometimes; you can do whatever you want. By spontaneously changing my plan, I have no idea what I missed and had an amazing day where I ended up.

Last summer I was doing what I thought was going to be a quick walk with my dog before lunch; just a short one because I was getting hungry. I had 2 poo bags for her and my keys when I left. That’s it. My intended 15 minute walk turned into 3 hours because the two of us ran into a friend who owns a boat cruise company and he asked if we wanted to go on his boat with some tourists. Nice sunny day, why not?  I decided to get off at the halfway point and walk around for a bit before returning home. Luckily we caught the free ferry back and met a woman aboard who offered to share some strawberries with me after hearing my story about having nothing more than one poo  bag for my mutt and my keys. Ah, the kindness of strangers!

What a fun day. You never know where life will take you but it will take you somewhere and I have found that if you just stay open to the infinite possibilities and  opportunities when they present themselves it usually ends up being a pretty cool time.

What pleasant, unexpected detour did you take in your life and where did it take you?

Ya Know What Ya Know.

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youknowwhatyouknowThere has always been this “knowing” inside me that everything will be ok. This was reinforced by my mom once telling me that she doesn’t worry about me because I always seem to land on my feet.

My life is an adventure of sorts, good and bad but I knew then and still know today that I will get through whatever is presented to me if I just accept whatever is there and know that the reason for it is something that I will likely discover further down the road.

With that being said it is easy to understand that I was never one of those Plan Your Whole Life people. Go to such and such a school, meet the love of your life, land the career that you studied for or perhaps wanted to be when you grew up, get married, buy a house, have a kid or two  and live happily ever after.

I hated when the guidance counsellor or some other adult asked me at 15 years of age what my plans for the future were. Are you kidding me??? (Just to let you know, the way that I make a living now was not even in existence back then so I couldn’t have even told them if I wanted to.)

I hated when in job interviews I was asked the question “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” I always told them what I knew they wanted to hear. Even then I knew that saying, “Oh, I have no clue; we’ll just see what happens” would not go over very well.

If you told me a year ago that I would be doing THIS, well to be honest I may have believed you more than if you had asked me about the previous things that I have done in my life when I have done them. I was planning on entering on a new path but in a different way. We’ll see where I land with this.


Your Mind Change – C Things DifFerEnTly ™

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At the age of 4, I was told that I was adopted. I was told in a way that a 4 year old would understand. “You were chosen” or “We chose you” were the words that I remembered being told to me.

I thought that my parents went into a supermarket or some other place like that and in the midst of rows of babies they wandered down the aisle and CHOSE ME.

I didn’t ask why they chose me over someone else or any other question for that matter. I just accepted it and life went on.

When I became a teenager, I had more questions about my life before being adopted but they didn’t seem to know the answers or remember much so I decided to search for myself.

Who was I? Who am I? Why am I the way I am?  There were so many questions.

With the blessing and support of my parents, I researched, investigated and travelled outside of myself and my province to find the answers to those questions that had captured my mind.

Only now do I realize that even though I thought I needed to go travelling all over the place to find the answers that I was searching for, I really just needed to do the complete opposite.

I needed to be still and go inward.

This realization came about a while back when negative circumstances were enveloping me and trying to take me to a place where I refused to go. Don’t you hate when that happens? I was playing a fierce game of tug of war and instead of pulling with all my might to try to conquer the negativity, I just let go of the rope and walked away from the battle.

I wasn’t getting the answers that I was looking for from the outside world so I decided to see what would happen if I stopped, took a breath and disconnected. I got rid of the many distractions that were allowing me to NOT search for the answers and just continue on with what I called the stupid circumstances of my present situation.

I decided to C Things DifFerEnTly™ so I disconnected my phone and cable, and locked my social media door. I then sat on the floor surrounded by piles of thoughts and my curiosity and chose to start meditating.

Going inward is the most important journey that I have taken so far.  It was and still is the best place ever to visit!

What have I found from my journey inward?  I have found an untouched time capsule with my name on it lying on the ocean floor just waiting for me to retrieve it. A waterproof note attached states that the contents residing inside belong to me but are best to be shared with others.

So, I guess it’s time to haul this huge capsule overflowing with my treasures up to the surface and unlock it for the world to see. I hope there’s also some of those gold foil covered chocolate coins intact because long journeys always make me hungry.

When prying open the capsule the word  PURPOSE  pops  out followed by inspire, educate and motivate others. That’s good because those, along with helping others achieve their individual results are the main reasons that my Personal Training clients choose to spend their money and time with me.

In return, they teach me patience and increase my knowledge and problem solving skills which then allows my creativity to come into play so that I can try new ways of doing things to help them .It really is a give and take relationship. Just as importantly they make me laugh and that is worth everything.

I hope that I can take my skills and transfer them onto the journey that I am now taking with you.   Your comments, ideas and feedback will let me know if I’m going in the right direction or if I have to take out the dreaded map.  I’m looking forward to travelling with you. Are you ready?walk

We are now stepping onto the road of YOUR MIND CHANGE where I hope I can help you to

C Things DifFerEnTly™  so that you can find your treasures along the way.